A Movie Review by Cole: Toy Story 4 (Spoiler-Free)

Over the last weekend, McKenna and I went to see the latest and last in the Toy Story franchise at our local theater, and what I will say is, Pixar has done it yet again! As this is a spoiler-free review, major plot details will not be shared here, just what is needed to express my love for this movie and why you should see it.

Toy Story came out when McKenna and I were both around 2 years old, in 1995. Feel old yet? I do! Again, Toy Story 4 is the final ending of the adventures of Andy’s toys, and it tugged at my heartstrings very strongly. From the trailer we know that Woody and Bo Peep are reunited, and seeing their relationship rekindled and evolve throughout the movie as well as the journey of the other toys like Buzz Lightyear et al, was a highlight. Also, the introduction of Forky, Bonnie’s newest toy, played a huge part in the overall plot and further emphasizes Woody’s heart for helping other toys and their kids. It has sizeable (no pun intended) action, the story itself is well-orchestrated and there is, of course, plenty of humor, much of which meant for the parents. Also, the parents and their kids enjoyed it equally but on different levels. Parents & younger adults grew up with the previous movies so there is a strong sense if nostalgia, and the kids enjoyed it for the action and fun that the characters had, regardless of whether they saw the others or not.

Honestly, I could find little to no fault with this movie. Ever since the first Toy Story, they have delivered time and time again, and this one may be their greatest to date. It is an emotional and satisfying conclusion to the journey of these characters that we have known for 24 years. I was an emotional wreck for the second half of the film, so that should be a good indicator. I give this one a 5 out of 5 no problem, absolutely recommend for parents and kids, single adults and elder millennial couples like McKenna and I. Go see it, alone or with kids, you will not be disappointed.

We are Knights in Battered Armour

Our internal battles can at times feel just as difficult as those fought by the knights on the battlefield and just like the knights of old… with battered armour we continue on.
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A Movie Review by Cole: Captain Marvel

Captain Marvel. What is one word I can use to describe this film? The word “impressive” comes to mind. The visuals, the story, characters, all are impressive. The character of Captain Marvel is the newest and perhaps most powerful addition to the Avengers, and her story is one of the most unique. Let’s start with that.

Captain Marvel’s story definitely took some interesting turns throughout the film, making for a very attention-grabbing plot. It is set in the 1990s (they had a Blockbuster video store for crying out loud!) and that in of itself aided the story in its own unique way, like Nick Fury’s pager being used at key points. Also, there is the involvement of the Kree (they turned out to be the bad guys once again) and the villain Ronan from Guardians of the Galaxy, and the revelation that like Peter Quill, she was born on Earth and lived the rest of her life to the present time on another world with another race of people, which I kind-of saw coming but also didn’t. I must also point out that a younger Nick Fury and Agent Coulson had significant roles in the film; Fury became like a second father to Carol Danvers, which is Captain Marvel’s real name, aiding her when others wouldn’t.

The visual effects, as usual, were very impressive and not gratuitous like some movies are these days. For instance, they made Captain Marvel’s powers look real and believable for the story. Granted, Marvel films are typically well-executed visually, but this one in particular required something a little different, and it definitely was. Visual effects were required to bring Captain Marvel’s powers to life as well as giving the illusion of being in space.

The character development was also well done, with Captain Marvel’s backstory as a female Air Force pilot and Nick Fury’s pre-director career with S.H.I.E.L.D. as a more personable and humorous character. The interactions between them and the other characters like Jude Law’s role as Captain Marvel’s Kree mentor were believable in their performances giving the audience a cast of characters they could connect with and care about.

To recap, Marvel studios delivered once again with Captain Marvel, giving audiences a strong principle character with a compelling story, enhanced with spectacular visual effects, and believable performances by all the actors. Definitely a must-watch, especially with its tie-in to Avengers: Endgame and the final showdown with Thanos, as well as the clever 90s references throughout. Don’t believe me? See for yourself.

Autism Myths Dispelled: Empathy (or lack thereof)

Another common misconception about Aspies or others on the Spectrum is that we are not empathetic to the feelings of those around us. Put simply, this is a misconception in the sense that reading and expressing emotions are very difficult, and so it can be difficult to identify with and relate to the emotional needs or state of another. This can be very problematic in the case of friendships and relationships, which I will cover separately in another post.

“My spouse doesn’t care about my needs!”; “Why is my spouse acting so selfishly?” These are just a couple of things I’ve heard from spouses of Aspies or someone else on the Spectrum, and it’s a shame that this is commonplace in relationships or even friendships. In truth, people on the Spectrum lacking in empathy is a misconception largely because it is common for us to lack general awareness and therefore, forget to ask about the needs of whoever else is within proximity. McKenna and I have had numerous discussions about that, as I’m sure all you with spouses on the Spectrum might have. Sometimes I need a reminder that I have a one-track mind which makes it harder to be aware of other things or other people, not to be intentionally rude or hurtful.

Now I want to talk about how this myth could not be further from the truth with regards to what Aspies and others on the Spectrum actually experience and feel. Contrary to what is widely believed, we actually feel very deeply, the problem is that we struggle to express them in an appropriate manner. In my own experience, expressing empathy is not an easy thing to do, but I do feel it. I feel it and I try to find ways to express it, even if it is as simple as saying, “I’m sorry”, or “I wish I could help”, etc. This can be a double-edged sword, however, as I often have a meltdown or become very sad or angry because I feed off of the emotions of the person(s) around me, and that can be off-putting to someone watching from the outside.

What else can I say about this? For one thing, I can say to people on the outside who view this phenomenon that it is an unfair thing to place on an Aspie or someone else on the Spectrum, and it might actually make it happen! If someone is told they are something or doing something for long enough, they start believe it is true and it then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, I ask you to learn about Autistic behaviors regarding emotional understanding/expression, and maybe you will see that feeling empathy and expressing it are not the same.

I also want to encourage my fellow Aspies and anyone else on the Spectrum that struggles with empathy to not let people get you down. It is hard, I know that all too well, but you know your emotions better than others may give you credit for, and those around you may understand it better than you believe. Empathy is not lacking in those on the Spectrum, in fact it runs very deeply, we just need help learning how to express it as the situation demands.

All that to say…