Having a modest outlook on life has really shifted my thinking. When I was in college I felt The Lord convicting me in the way that I needed to dress. More specifically I felt called to wear skirts. When I first started wearing skirts regularly I was very surprised at how odd or interesting people found it. “Why are you all dressed up?’ or “where are you off to?” This initially caught me off guard. Because I was wearing a dress or skirt people thought I was trying to “dress up” while in my mind all I was doing was being modest and obeying what I felt God was asking me to do. In a culture of sweatpants, tank tops, and skinny jeans I do kind of feel like an odd one out.
The feeling of being the odd one out simply because I was dressing in skirts and sleeves was sooooo weird to me I didn’t quite understand how it could be a negative thing. I feel so beautiful in my skirts and cardigans. Even on the weekends when I know that I’ll be lounging around the house in a comfy hoodie, I still wear skirts and it gives me a sense of confidence even when I feel tired or I’m in pain. That really does speak to our society doesn’t it? When modesty makes you so different. In a way it is meant to do that because as followers as Christ we are supposed to be different. Romans 12:2 says “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
This verse is one that I try to live by. One of the easiest ways to do that is by what I wear simply because I naturally feel more confident. Part of this comes simply from the fact that skirts are easier to wear. When I was in rehab for a hip replacement surgery I realized that bending my hips up to put on jeans wasn’t easy and if I managed, it was very painful. Right from the start skirts were the way to go!
As i went through rehab I was dead set on being able to dress independently. I had surgery in April and my wedding was in September so there was a lot of internal pressure to learn how to get back to normal as soon as possible. So in my mind if skirts meant I could do it on my own then there was no question. Thus, The skirt trend has continues.
In general I don’t usually wear makeup. Don’t get me wrong, Like every other woman I enjoy getting dolled up and feeling pretty but there is so much stress involved in putting on makeup. It has to look perfect. It has to stay perfect. I’m just not about that. In choosing not to wear makeup, I also found that I spent a lot less time in front of the mirror. Having less time to worry about my makeup gives me more time to focus on other things. This photo hung on the medicine cabinet in the bathroom. I know, I know, it’s so cliché. To me this verse speaks volumes. I felt confident without makeup, and that’s what mattered. That’s where my focus needed to be. I needed to focus on my faith, My relationship and personal life.
Modesty has shifted my way of thinking from looks, and external things that don’t really mean much to focusing internally, at what God want’s’ from me and what is right. I stopped caring about other peoples opinions of me and focused on self-confidence.
Thank you Lord for this amazing shift of my heart and mind over the past few years. I commit to being open to the things you teach me and the ways you are calling me to change to be more like you. I pray for wisdom and that you would guide my heart and mind in the right direction. Thank you for putting this on my heart and giving me the courage and words to share it. Amen.